Emotional Abuse: 15 Signs of Emotional Abuse 

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Emotional Abuse: The scars you can’t see are the hardest to heal. 


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Unlike physical violence, the thing with emotional abuse is that you don’t always see it as it is usually until it’s too late, because, by the time you notice it for what it is, your usually in too deep.

You’ve already sunk into a depression and you are riddled with anxiety. You are usually left feeling lonely because over time you’ve neglected and lost (or so it seems) your relationships with friends and family through no fault of your own.


Some of the signs (but not limited to) of Emotional Abuse are:

  • Isolation from friends and family 
  • Calls you “too sensitive” when you respond to abusive comments
  • Humiliates you, either alone or in front of others
  • *Gaslights you to make you doubt your sanity 
  • Lacks respect for you and points out your mistakes
  • Blames you for his problems
  • Tries to control you and your behaviour
  • Belittles you 
  • Has (extra-marital) affairs and becomes emotionally distant
  • Tells you your a bad parent or threatens to take away your children
  • Destroys your property or threatens to kill your pets
  • Not allowing you out alone, constant checking up or following you
  • Traps you in a room and doesn’t let you out
  • Makes all the decisions
  • Makes false allegations or endlessly making accusations

Emotional Abuse

Unlike domestic violence, there aren’t any external signs or damage to be viewed, that would give you and everyone else too much evidence that you were in an abusive relationship.

Emotional abusers enjoy the torment and will torture you from the inside, they get inside your head and heart and like to see you being destroyed by reducing your self-esteem and confidence and doubting yourself in order to make you increasingly reliant on them. It also makes it easier to manipulate you and convince the outside world that you are crazy, unstable or jealous.

**Many survivors of Emotional Abuse in relationships state that the impact of the abuse is worse than any physical violence they experienced, however, it was much more difficult to prove, to obtain protection, or even to get others to take them seriously.

*What is Gaslighting?

Gaslighting is a form of Emotional Abuse in which an abuser attempts to make you doubt your own recall or perception.

If you believe yourself to be in an abusive relationship please seek help as soon as possible. There are some helplines listed below if you’d like advice please don’t hesitate to contact them either on their website or free phone numbers:


Www.victimsupport.org.uk – 08081689111

Www.womensaid.org.uk – 08082000247

Www.lwa.org.uk – 03003650112


Don’t suffer in silence.

Much Love

Laura xx



**statement from the lwa website.

All views in this post are my own (unless otherwise stated), and this post is not endorsed by the above organisations.

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  2. January 2, 2018 / 20:52

    Hey lovely.

    These are all so very true. I used to live with a number of people where there was a couple. The man was just absolutely horrible in an emotionally abusive way.

    My friend couldn’t see it at all. She still doesn’t see it as much after not being together all those years later. I had to step in and kept telling him to go away.

    Awful time. I hope more people stand up and ask for help


    • January 18, 2018 / 01:29

      Yes I know where your friend is coming from with not seeing it. I’ve been out of mine 2yrs and only recent realised the extent of it. It’s not an easy thing to accept 😕 I hope your friend is well out of it 🌹 and I agree, I hope more people do too!

  3. January 3, 2018 / 01:26

    This is really good info. I used to be a lawyer – family and domestic law was my area of practice. I saw so many women (and a few men) who were victims of emotional abuse but didn’t even realize they were or had been in abusive relationships. Awareness of the dangers of emotional abuse is a big issue for me. Thank you for putting this out there.

    • January 18, 2018 / 01:20

      Your welcome 🌹 no it took me long enough to realise, and although I did notice I was too tired and worn from it to really care anymore! If that makes sense lol 😕

  4. January 4, 2018 / 12:18

    This information about emotional abuse isn’t put out there enough & is so important. Great post!

    • January 18, 2018 / 01:15

      Thank you 🌹 no you don’t really see much information about it … it’s a shame because of how real it is! 😕

  5. January 18, 2018 / 10:00

    Fantastic post! this will help so many people and will help to raise awareness.

  6. Christel T.
    January 18, 2018 / 13:55

    I have had a few friends get out of abusive relationships and you are spot on. The more we put light on this, hopefully we can end it.

  7. January 18, 2018 / 14:15

    It took me many years of dating a few toxic men to realize that the things they filled my head with were not true! That they were emotionally abusing me. now when their narative runs in my head, I realize what it is and stop it before I beat myself up even more!

  8. January 18, 2018 / 14:17

    Thanks so much for the way you addressed such a difficult topic. I can take so much from it to make me and others better people. Keep it up

  9. Preeti
    January 19, 2018 / 07:14

    This is so insightful and such an important topic to talk about! This will spread awareness about the emotional abuse.

  10. January 23, 2018 / 21:51

    Very well written post about a very sensitive subject. I think its great that you’ve talked about this subject.

  11. January 26, 2018 / 16:19

    It is so brave of you to take this matter out and talk about it. When people know about it, they will know how to deal with it and it is so important to create awareness about such issues and help people who are struggling with this.

  12. May 22, 2018 / 21:12

    Such a good informative post! I’ve been dealing with an emotional/physical and mental abuse from my father. We are finally free but it’s great that you are informing people?

    • May 22, 2018 / 21:31

      I’m Sorry to hear that, and really glad your now out of it! 💖. It’s a horrible experience and I had a hard time accepting it and after I was out of that relationship I didn’t want to be tagged a “victim”, I realised that wether people classed me as one or not was not the real issue and people needed to know some of the things to look out for. I’d hate for people to be thinking there’s no help for them out there like I did at the time. 🌹 Thank you for commenting and good luck with the rest of your journey xx

      • May 22, 2018 / 21:40

        You too! You’re not a victim you’re a survivor you got out of that situation and are now helping others 💖 maybe sometime in the future we could collaborate and do one big post on abuse to raise awareness

    • January 20, 2019 / 18:49

      Thank you for reading! It’s an awareness I’d of been glad to have know a few years back 🌹

  13. Thesacredspaceap
    March 24, 2019 / 13:34

    Wonderful post. Great awareness for people. Emotional abuse is horrific.
    Thank you for sharing with us.

  14. March 25, 2019 / 20:51

    Such an important post to read – really well written ♥ x

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